Grilled!...First Email Post!

First Emailed question! Woohoo!

 Dear Jameson,

I have a question: I am dating a guy who is very nice.   However, when we met, I saw his teeth was in the worst condition and I was like well, I don't have to kiss him.  But I really felt bad when one of my home boys met him and said to me " you need to tell dude, he needs to get his teeth fix".  Now every day since that day, I have been wanting to tell him but cant bring myself to do it.  But he always open the door for me to say something, like, he told me how many wigs you got.... I was like I should get him right now but didn't.  I cant bring him around my family.  I am so irritated with him now for small things.  I know he really likes me and I like him too but I can't kiss him or get pass the corroded teeth. Also, he has no sense of humor, mite be a good thing but I think I  just need to let it him go and ask him if we could just be friends. Please advise on how I should approach this?  

Grilled

Dear Grilled

 Bad teeth are never a good thing, but you did see this when you first met him. If he's comfortable enough to discuss your wigs with your friends, he should be able to discuss his teeth issues.  He may be self-conscious about his teeth so you do have to keep that in mind when you bring it up so he won't feel as though you are attacking him as opposed to trying to help him. Some people are willing to change the slightest things if it means them staying with someone they care about. 

As far as him having no sense of humor, if you can deal with that then go ahead. Most women do say they are attracted to a man's sense of humor and confidence more then anything else. So that might be a deal breaker. So if you can't get passed the bad teeth and lack of a sense of humor, it would be in your best interest to move along and just be friends.